Make each other up (part 2)

Andriana Make up Part 2To feel important is one of the best feelings, is it not? 

It makes our hearts jump with joy of our own. It makes our confidence grow. It gives us the assurance that we and we alone have the unique strengths and virtues that the others could not possibly have at the same moment.

Think again. 

To have the self-assurance of the very own purpose. 

To have our work (and ourselves too) recognised and praised -gets the "feeling important" moment to the surface of our being. 

"No one else could`ve done it the same way! It`s unique and it is the "My way" - is recognised, accepted and very often praised by the others.  A good feeling, is it not? 

To feel important is to reach the understanding that what we do has an important impact on the outcome of any situation not only for us but for the ones related to us in one way or another at this very situation. 

Growing the feeling of being important is not always as we perceive it and as we see it though. We should stop and reflect from time to time.  The over-growth of this feeling could lead us in many different directions. One could be also a direction of separation from the others, instead of being praised for what we have achieved. There is a possibility for us to be recognised as over-confident, narcissistic or having a big Ego which instead of growing healthy connections with the people could easily turn the opposite way and place the question: how could we "make each other up”?

Where is the middle ground for the feeling of importance? - It lays in the kindness and the sense of being humble. 

Yes, it is good to know we are important and to accept ourselves as important people.

This acceptance greatly grows the feeling of responsibility but also the expectations of the others for and from us and our work. In this regard we should be very much aware of  how much self- importance we need to feel, to be feeling honestly and consistently good in ourselves and to make other people feel good about us and themselves too.  The balancing of the feeling of importance is a very personal thing.  Sometimes people have the need to feel more important, sometimes people get tired of feeling so important...

 Here I would refer to Kindness again. In the first case - remember; Everyone and everything is important - sometimes more, sometimes less. In the second case - remember; Nothing is too important neither a person nor a job as nothing is forever important and this is what makes the life humble at times and keeps the good balance in the nature of all things.  

Feeling important for Oneself is very important for the personal well-being too but more important is how we balance this feeling to maintain our well-being and the well-being of the others.  Here I would refer to the acceptance and recognition of the feeling of importance of the people around us and how they deal with it.  The importance of the emotional intelligence in our behaviour and in handling the connections that we maintain throughout our life is greatly important too. 

To feel important is a basic human need and no matter of the proportions every person experiences this feeling many times in a lifetime, in unique different ways and on unique different levels. 

So, imagine a world where the feeling of importance is balanced in a way that no single human being will think and act feeling more important or superior than another human being. 

Imagine a world where the importance of each one is recognised as a unique thing and appreciated as such - then we could openly and honestly say:

 Yes, we do live in a kind world and we are all important in so many different ways just as much as the world needs us to be. 

Andriana Andreeva

Stob, Bulgaria

Image by Francesco Ciccolella

KindaKind in a multicultural community - Make each other Up (part 1)

Adi Blog 20 Feb 21Speaking globally (in the new times of a forthcoming orders) the environment is changing rapidly, the demographics are changing rapidly and the necessity to adapt is increasing by days.

As a global-multicultural society the need to reflect all the shifts in our communities and lessen the imbalances which are quite imminent on the big picture of our global family. 

The need to develop reflective transformations in the perception and the understanding of the differences in our cultures is increasing. It is not just the languages, the traditions but the whole perceptions of the cultures in general as this is what will help us lessen the miscommunications and go forward to a positive multicultural environment. 

 Every communities basics consist of culture, ethics, morals and visions.

 What motivates a community on a small scale is - compassion and understanding - from there the development of all different activities and goals is much more content and easy to get to. What we need to learn first of the basics and of the understanding is the compassion and the acceptance that even if every person is completely different still we meet at the point of compassion. The first thing to be aware of is - beneath every behaviour there is a feeling and beneath every feeling, there is a need.

 If we develop the capacity to detect and distinguish the need, the path to understanding, acceptance and connections is not that long. 

What keeps a community strong?

Few simple things - trust, reliability, compassion, and common goals.

"Make each other Up"- a very profoundly described matter in the works of Anna Wierzbiska (1999) - who makes the suggestion that while all normal human beings have "feelings" - lexicalised in the English language these " feelings" are not Universally Available in the mental life of all the people around the world. 

This is where the study of the connections between the culture and the psyche is absolutely essential and necessary especially now in times of global uncertainty and changing demographic waves.

" It is not a measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society " (Jiddu Krishnamurti)

Adi Blog 2 20 Feb 21


Don`t we all want to live a healthy life in a healthy environment, in a healthy society - land-wise, people-wise, climate-wise, food-wise? Part of the answers to these questions lies in the understanding and acceptance of everyones’ religions, traditions, language and culture and these are the foundation bricks to building our future communities of contentment and wellbeing. 


Andriana Andreeva (Adi)

Stob, Bulgaria

February 2021


Restoring Peace and Calm after Conflict and Harm

 15. Conflict ResolutionSome of the greatest battles we will ever face will take place in our minds and emotional bodies as we face down fears and thoughts of attack and condemnation that rob us of peace and calm internally, and in the world we participate and live within. Resolving conflict, aggressive judgment and prejudice, fears and anxieties all help bring an individual back to a place of presence, and hopefully enjoyment and hope in their lives. It is key to creating harmony and kinder communities.

Restorative practice is a practical way of bringing an end to conflict, responsibility for our healing and growth, and an opportunity to move on in our lives once again. Conflict resolution is very much down to internal dialogue and listening to other points of view to find some common ground for agreement or at least clarity of understanding. It offers a different approach to harm than purely punitive measures created as a general tariff, for it allows all involved to voice their opinion and experience of incidents, with the aim of finding specific remedies and measures to bring closure and hopefully right action to prevent further harm. It allows for understanding and change.

I am privileged to have Tim Chapman as my guest on the Rites of Man show, a man who has dedicated his professional life to others, by helping ‘offenders’ take responsibility for their actions, and find ways of living their lives more peacefully. He is Chair of the European Forum for Restorative Justice with huge experience and understanding of why in particular men are far more likely to end up with criminal convictions than women, and what works to help them change and channel their passion and the purpose they give to their lives.

I can personally validate Tim’s ability to facilitate restorative circles and methodologies, having studied under his tutelage at the University of Ulster to obtain a Post Graduate Diploma in Restorative Practice and undertake research within the Navajo Nation toward a masters degree. Tim and I will be discussing his work and experiences, and listening and learning from his wisdom, and the wisdom of restorative practices from around the world.

Do tune in to the show (or listen to the re-run or the podcast) Sunday 21st at 1:30 pm, where you can comment or ask a question on this important subject that deserves our attention if we truly wish to live more peacefully as individuals and in our communities.



Valentine and the daily bites of love

IMG 20200706 210211Valentine's Day? Why not every day?

Do we need one day as a reminder of what every other day could be like if the inner light of everyone was lit - even on hard days?

In the evening, the stones are cold. And so, it is with people. When there is inner light, people are soft, warm, gentle and loving. When we lose that light, we get cold… and rough. There is not a creature in the world that, if you love them, does not love you back. Try and experiment with animals and plants and check out this simple law of love. I've tried this with some so-called, “bad” dogs. Choose a dog, love it. I pass by a bad dog feeling and spreading love. I pass by him a second time - it knows me; it does not bark at me this time. It says, “I know you” - having the love passing him by makes him silent.

If you love people, they will love you. There is no human who does not react positively to Love.
Tell someone a good word and do not think anymore.  What he will do, whether he deserves the good word — you don’t need to worry about this. This person was not born to understand you?! It is important that you understand and can help others. This is the meaning and beauty of life.

Love is all around us, and the true vision of Valentine was that love gives birth to more love. The love between two people, as well as love you spread around you and give to other people, animals, and plants.

Love is the most important matter in life. Allow it to resolve all the remaining issues, whatever their character is - personal, social, family issues or universal matters. And do not just wait for the second week in February to do it! Allow it to flow through you every day of your conscious life and pass it onto every soul around you.

Love generates love.

Andriana Andreeva (Adi)

Stob, Bulgaria
February 2021

The Sacred Masculine and the Divine Feminine

Ian Lynch 14 Feb rites of man show flyerThe ‘Sacred Masculine’ and the ‘Divine Feminine’ or the ‘Divine Masculine’ and the ‘Sacred Feminine’ are expressions used to describe the essential nature at the core of our human existence, as well as the creative essence of life within our Universe. For some people, they can be felt as distinctive forces within, whilst for others, they are just another piece of new-age pyscho-babble.

On Sunday 14th February, Ian Lynch will be joined on the Rites of Man Radio Show by guests Anne Marie Morello, Beth Gordon, and JC Yogi to discuss and debate with him the meaning of these terms and their relevance today, if any, to the way that we live and conduct our lives.

If we accept their existence, then what are qualities of ‘sacred’ masculinity, those tangible characteristics, traits and energies that we can resonate with? Perhaps we might say dutiful, loyal, brave, passionate, adventurous, expansive, in balance with nature, alert, accepting, resourceful, resilient, romantic, courteous, considerate of others as well as our own needs, playful and humorous, disciplined and spontaneously available to life. And what of the characteristics of ‘divine’ femininity, the very essence of the creative forces helping to create, nurture and hold life in existence. Would we say caring, unconditional love and an open heart, a forgiving nature, compassionate, wise, ability to listen, intuition, poetic disposition, communication skill, harmony with nature, and an understanding of the replacing of the old with the new? How do you personally, if at all, experience the essence of masculine and/or feminine energy and characteristics within you? What qualities might you use to define the sacred and the divine nature a mature and healthy man or woman and those of that reverberate through life around us?

How we see ourselves and others shapes the quality, vitality and beauty of our lives, for the world we look out upon is hugely dependent on our inner landscape, and whether this is peaceful or turbulent, awake to the present moment or hostage to the past and the future like the comings and goings and goings of the tides.

This show will be an opportunity to comment upon, and to ask questions or share your own wisdom with our studio guests. We will share four pieces of music to capture some of the qualities of or honouring’s to the ‘sacred’ masculine and the ‘divine’ feminine that might be said to permeate all life as we know it.

Join us Sunday 14th February live, or message us via in advance of the show.

With many blessings, Ian Lynch and the KindaSound team

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