You know?... You know?...🙂

Have you tried to listen to your audio messages ?

If you didn't, “you know”… you can, and perhaps, you will be surprised if you listen very carefully.
You will find words that you use more often than you need to…

"Ummmm…."

This usually happens most often when you describe the situation emotionally: you voice an emotional comment or you get splashed by a passing car.
On a wave of indignation, phrases pour out of you:

"Well, basically, you imagine, well, so to speak, this is."
“You know” …”Naturally “ …

The usual active vocabulary is not enough to convey a thought to the listener though.

In fact, these are ordinary words.
We only use them out of place and off topic to create the impression of a witty interlocutor or to waste time answering a question.
These are such "speech crutches" that we rely on when we cannot move forward on our own feet.
We were just going to rest and sort out our thoughts, but in a hurry, the brain generates the simplest constructions:

"well, um, so to speak, this is the thing"... The reasons why?

just to not be silent.

If you already noticed and you want to improve your speech for yourself and for others, here are a few simple and free tips on how to go through this conscious change any time you want to.

Make a list of parasitic words that are used most in your speech. This will make it clear what needs to be done.

Parasites are especially common in answers to questions.

Make it a rule to spend 2-3 seconds thinking.

You can also say, “What an interesting question, I just have to think about it for a few seconds.”
You will “buy” time and when you come back with an answer, the speech will remain clear.
You will be seen as someone who thinks before he speaks. This is valuable.

Changing speech habits is not so easy, and instead of a word that you have used often enough, a "parasite substitute" should appear.

So, you need to work on vocabulary.

We have two of them: active - the vocabulary that we use most often, and passive - that which we have ever read and which is stored in the memory, waiting for its best hour.
Your task is to transfer as much vocabulary as possible from a passive state to an active one.
Just reading doesn't help. It is necessary to carefully read the text, note interesting turns of speech, fix them in the margins, in notes on electronic media, and then gradually introduce them into your everyday life.
For example, make posts, speak in these words, etc. If this is not done, they are gradually forgotten (unfortunately)

Do mental and vocabulary exercises

For example, you can play synonyms. Take the adjective («red») and get 10 synonyms for it.
You will realize that your memory is not as fast as it seems to you, but learning will begin an important process and forgotten vocabulary will begin to return.

It takes practice to get results. Speak, keep audio and video logs.

Speak, get used to the way you speak, and as you listen, analyze your speech. Feedback from your inner critic is sometimes just what you need.

Once you spend some time doing these workouts, you'll soon start to notice progress.

“You know?...” 😉

The ability to speak in front of an audience and to speak beautifully is a skill that, like many others, can be learned if desired.

It takes time and conscious effort indeed but it is worth it “basically”...🙂

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A.A

Stob, Bulgaria